I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but I’m a control freak and when I do something, I go big. For Christmas breakfast, I made custom order bagels for the family, orange sweet rolls, Sous Vide Eggs Benedict, Homemade Pastrami, and Homemade Sourdough Challah. I got absolutely no sleep Christmas Eve and my mood was foul Christmas Day because I was utterly exhausted.
It reminds me of the New Testament story (not gonna preach here, but this is my thought process) of Mary & Martha. Jesus came to visit Martha and Mary and Martha gets herself busy preparing a meal and fussing over what needs to be done while Mary sits at the feet of the Savior and listens.
I am definitely a Martha. Rather than playing board games with my family or just enjoying the company of my fabulous Mother-in-Law, I am always fussing away in the kitchen and worried about if everything is perfect.
New Years Resolution – Simplify my Menu
I love cooking these over-the-top gourmet meals. They are fun and I get a real thrill out of the food prep. But, I’m a busy mom, wife and woman and a lot of the time I get overwhelmed and we end up eating out. So now I’ve spent money on both the food that is going to sit in my fridge and go bad because I didn’t take the time to prepare it and on an overpriced meal at a restaurant that I likely could have made better at home. This is stupid. But I continually do this to myself.
Let’s not forget the portion sizes at restaurants are out of control and the meals really aren’t the kind of balanced that a girl like me should be eating. Now, I haven’t gained back a ton of weight, this holiday I think I’m up like 3 pounds, but this is not a path I even want to start down.
Also, my kids complain that I make these extravagant meals and then they have to do the dishes. If I made scrambled eggs, they’d still complain, but it has caused some real conflict in our house.
New Years Resolution: Simplify my menu. I’m allowed one gourmet meal every two weeks and the rest of my recipes have to be simple 5 ingredients or less (not counting seasonings) meals.
New Years Resolution – Simplify my Home
Homemaking is not my talent. I don’t like to clean and I tend to get lazy about the simplest of tasks. I’ll wash the laundry then forget to put it away and it sits in a basket until someone washes it again, my room is a disaster zone because I walk out and work in my office or in the kitchen and forget to go back and clean it, etc. So, this year I have to get a hold on this.
Not only is this not a good example to my kids, but it causes anxiety and frustration in me. But, when I look at all that has to be done in my house, I get overwhelmed and then I just give up. It is easier to hide my head in the sand than to focus on just how much work has to be done.
New Years Resolution: Simplify my homemaking.
Practice might not make perfect, but it should improve things over time. If you’re not efficient at cleaning the bathroom? Practice. If you’re struggling with laundry? Practice. Learn the timing on your dryer and when it is done, practice getting up and folding and putting away the laundry right away.
2. Work on one area.
My entire house is not ever going to be perfectly clean. I’m going to take an area every day and I’m going to get it where I need it to be to be happy – not perfection, but good enough.
One step at a time. One area at a time. Rinse and repeat.
3. Learn from Others
There are tons of resources out there to help you get control of your home. The most famous is Flylady. Her method used to scare me back when I first heard of it because there was this huge binder and it was overwhelming. I was looking at the entire whale, rather than the bite by bite method she put out.
But with increased technology comes better access to tools, and Flylady’s app is WONDERFUL. The main thing is that as you learn things from those that already have it down, you no longer will feel quite so helpless and overwhelmed.
New Years Resolution – Simplify my Attention
I often feel like I just have too much on my plate. Between work, hobbies, children, husband, church, extended family, etc I tend to forget that I need to take care of me too. And taking care of everything else suffers. Because I work from home, I often will not leave my house for days at a time. This is not good for my mental health. Sometimes I get so busy that I forget to shower! I hate being dirty and as I’m stumbling to bed exhausted at night, I keep promising myself that I’ll take care of me tomorrow first. But it never happens.
And then when I get sick, I still push too hard rather than taking care of myself. Which lengthens the illness and makes me even less equipped to take care of others and all my other responsibilities.
So this year, I have to put things into perspective and simplify my attention. I’m going to do what I can and give myself a break when I can’t do other things. It is okay to not be perfect, something I need to remind myself.
New Years Resolution: Don’t forget to take care of me.